Comments on: The Heart of the Matter http://www.childperspective.com/child-perspective/the-heart-of-the-matter/ Real Parenting Solutions Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:33:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Andrea http://www.childperspective.com/child-perspective/the-heart-of-the-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-319 Andrea Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:07:55 +0000 http://www.childperspective.com/?p=1195#comment-319 such a great post, with tangible specific ways to address this topic! Another plug for the playful approach to some issues and the idea of letting some of the "small stuff" go. I am (slowly) reading Playful Parenting and I think I got this idea from him. A few times lately when my son (age 5) has resisted doing something I have been asking to, or saying "mama i am never going to xyz" I have pretended crying, big waaa waaa complete with rubbing my eyes... he thinks this is completely hysterical and it has dramatically changed the (downward spiraling) interaction we were having. After both of us laughing over my "crying" and me getting more and more dramatic about it, he has happily done whatever I was asking him to do, or ceased whatever irritating behavior I was "crying" about. And an unrelated side note - a few days ago when I said "I love you so much! no matter what!" he replied "do you love me even when I wake up in the middle of the night?" Which really gave me a reality check on my middle of the night grumpiness and how it might be coming across (yikes). And was an excellent entry into talking about how I always love him, even when I (or he) am (is) grumpy, tired, angry, distracted etc. Thanks again Emily! such a great post, with tangible specific ways to address this topic!

Another plug for the playful approach to some issues and the idea of letting some of the “small stuff” go. I am (slowly) reading Playful Parenting and I think I got this idea from him. A few times lately when my son (age 5) has resisted doing something I have been asking to, or saying “mama i am never going to xyz” I have pretended crying, big waaa waaa complete with rubbing my eyes… he thinks this is completely hysterical and it has dramatically changed the (downward spiraling) interaction we were having. After both of us laughing over my “crying” and me getting more and more dramatic about it, he has happily done whatever I was asking him to do, or ceased whatever irritating behavior I was “crying” about.

And an unrelated side note – a few days ago when I said “I love you so much! no matter what!” he replied “do you love me even when I wake up in the middle of the night?” Which really gave me a reality check on my middle of the night grumpiness and how it might be coming across (yikes). And was an excellent entry into talking about how I always love him, even when I (or he) am (is) grumpy, tired, angry, distracted etc.

Thanks again Emily!

]]> By: Joe Bruzzese http://www.childperspective.com/child-perspective/the-heart-of-the-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-318 Joe Bruzzese Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:41:32 +0000 http://www.childperspective.com/?p=1195#comment-318 Wonderful post Emily! You hit it with your discussion of a child's needs. One of the courses I teach in the teacher education program at UC Santa Barbara focuses on the emotional needs of children and how teachers can look at these needs and the external assets found each of four different arenas (school, home, community and a child's peer group). The discussion is fascinating for the future teachers. Thanks for tackling a tough concept here. Best, Joe Bruzzese www.ThinkingForwardtv.com Wonderful post Emily! You hit it with your discussion of a child’s needs. One of the courses I teach in the teacher education program at UC Santa Barbara focuses on the emotional needs of children and how teachers can look at these needs and the external assets found each of four different arenas (school, home, community and a child’s peer group). The discussion is fascinating for the future teachers. Thanks for tackling a tough concept here.

Best,
Joe Bruzzese
http://www.ThinkingForwardtv.com

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