Comments on: Parent’s anger: a healthy dose

By: emilygeizer

emilygeizer — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 14:36:46 +0000

Congrats to you and your daughter!! It can be hard to plow through, but so rewarding once you begin to see consistent positive results. The name of the book is, Sometimes I'm Bombaloo. The link is active here and in the article to Amazon so that you can learn more.

By: Anna Van Dis

Anna Van Dis — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 16:12:05 +0000

Whew. Affirming post! Mommy definitely gets Bombaloo. What is the book referring to anger as going bombaloo, Emily? Love the word. And guess what?! Two poops on the potty this AM, (and no rewards, ,just high fives, I was seriously ready to give in to rewards yesterday, but did not) and she loves to show everyone her undies. Its been HARD but day three we are seeing RESULTS! Yeah!

By: tali

tali — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 06:18:12 +0000

this post is perfect for me today. my daughter and I had our differences after dinner. I forgot to touch base with her. I will do it tomorrow.

another great book is: becoming the parent you want to be by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser

thanks
tali

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 15:21:34 +0000

What a great post. I think anger in our society in general is not talked about or handled very productively much of the time. This is really helpful descriptions of the dynamics and value of anger, seperated from the often reflexive response of guilt.

A recent experience… I was at my wits end, sooooo frustrated with something my son was doing (can’t remember what it was! although it seemed very important at the time). After describing my frustration, I left the room, went to my bedroom, stomped my feet around and grrrrr’d in frustration, as a last resort to prevent myself from yelling, which i knew wouldn’t get us anywhere. He came to find me, suddenly open to talking about it, curious. I think dis-engaging from the power struggle we were having allowed both of us to be more curious and receptive to the other’s perspective. We ended up having a good talk, laughing about how we had both just been so grumpy, with lots of hugs, and some sort of resolution to what we were battling about. Such a relief!

By: thatpatti

thatpatti — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:53:02 +0000

it’s good to be reminded that getting angry is normal – it’s how we react and respond to the anger that is where we need to keep ourselves in check. it’s a hard, hard thing some days…