Comments on: The Never Ending Goodnight http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/ Real Parenting Solutions Fri, 03 Sep 2010 02:16:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: emilygeizer http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-/#comment-147 emilygeizer Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:39:38 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-147 I would enforce the consequence just like any other. If your child does not listen, then there are subsequent consequences. That's the crux of this issue. Your child needs to understand that you mean what you say and you say what you mean. And, you need to <a href="http://childperspective.wordpress.com/2009/01/05/what-is-my-child-thinking/" rel="nofollow">understand your child</a>! So, only pick battles that are worthy of battling <em>and</em> follow through. If you do this consistently, then your child will listen and cooperate more. I would enforce the consequence just like any other. If your child does not listen, then there are subsequent consequences.

That’s the crux of this issue.

Your child needs to understand that you mean what you say and you say what you mean. And, you need to understand your child! So, only pick battles that are worthy of battling and follow through. If you do this consistently, then your child will listen and cooperate more.

]]> By: Nessa http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Nessa Fri, 04 Sep 2009 02:46:19 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-146 How exactly would you force a child to sleep on the bathroom floor? How exactly would you force a child to sleep on the bathroom floor?

]]> By: emilygeizer http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-/#comment-145 emilygeizer Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:42:16 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-145 Has he been sleeping with you until just 2 months ago? If so, try explaining to him that now that he is such a big boy he is able to sleep in a room with his older brother. Try "selling" it as a positive instead of worrying about his response. Be confident and matter-of-fact. Your attitude makes all of the difference. If he has been out of your room for longer and this is new behavior that has started seeming out of the blue, then determine if he is scared or just wants you. Follow my upcoming nighttime series to read more tips and please continue to share your thoughts and experiences. All of the readers benefit! Has he been sleeping with you until just 2 months ago? If so, try explaining to him that now that he is such a big boy he is able to sleep in a room with his older brother. Try “selling” it as a positive instead of worrying about his response. Be confident and matter-of-fact. Your attitude makes all of the difference.

If he has been out of your room for longer and this is new behavior that has started seeming out of the blue, then determine if he is scared or just wants you. Follow my upcoming nighttime series to read more tips and please continue to share your thoughts and experiences. All of the readers benefit!

]]> By: Dominique http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-143 Dominique Fri, 28 Aug 2009 09:10:49 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-143 I'm also having issues with me going to be 3 yr old. I've tried (for the past 2 mths) to put him to bed with his brother (5yr old) but he keeps on wanting to come back over to our room. It has been a tussle trying to get him to stay in his bed and sleep in his room without waking up to 3 times a night screaming MOMMY!!!! I’m also having issues with me going to be 3 yr old. I’ve tried (for the past 2 mths) to put him to bed with his brother (5yr old) but he keeps on wanting to come back over to our room. It has been a tussle trying to get him to stay in his bed and sleep in his room without waking up to 3 times a night screaming MOMMY!!!!

]]> By: emilygeizer http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-/#comment-134 emilygeizer Mon, 24 Aug 2009 00:02:20 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-134 Likewise, I grew up with a small box of teeny tiny dolls, called worry dolls. Maybe a Guatemalan tradition? Not sure. I loved those! More for there cuteness than comfort, but there must be something to that. When my own daughter has experienced fear during the night, either my husband or I have held her and walked her around the house speaking in a soft, reassuring, sleepy time voice. We describe familiar things, "There is the bathroom, your hoppity horse, our dog, the kitchen. And look out the window, there is Sam's house. Everything is just the same except the sun is sleeping" [or on the other side of Earth or whatever age appropriate language you choose]. This has helped both of my girls put their fears of the dark to rest. Fear is not rationale, but can be eased by positive experiences. If the fear is due to separation, then try kissing bedtime snuggly objects a bunch in front of your child and explain the kisses will be there all night. Or, put a picture of you or other relative nearby. And/or, play a white noise machine. They do wonders for lulling kids into deep sleep. Likewise, I grew up with a small box of teeny tiny dolls, called worry dolls. Maybe a Guatemalan tradition? Not sure. I loved those! More for there cuteness than comfort, but there must be something to that.

When my own daughter has experienced fear during the night, either my husband or I have held her and walked her around the house speaking in a soft, reassuring, sleepy time voice. We describe familiar things, “There is the bathroom, your hoppity horse, our dog, the kitchen. And look out the window, there is Sam’s house. Everything is just the same except the sun is sleeping” [or on the other side of Earth or whatever age appropriate language you choose]. This has helped both of my girls put their fears of the dark to rest. Fear is not rationale, but can be eased by positive experiences.

If the fear is due to separation, then try kissing bedtime snuggly objects a bunch in front of your child and explain the kisses will be there all night. Or, put a picture of you or other relative nearby. And/or, play a white noise machine. They do wonders for lulling kids into deep sleep.

]]> By: tali http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-/#comment-144 tali Wed, 19 Aug 2009 04:58:33 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-144 something my friend did last week that has been working so far: her son is 6 and have so many fears it is hard to count. so she made with him small wire people, before he goes to sleep he puts them under his pillow and they take all the fears away. so far it works. those dolls are come from the Bolivian tradition. they also have wish dolls etc. worth a try tali www.growingUPcreative..com something my friend did last week that has been working so far: her son is 6 and have so many fears it is hard to count.
so she made with him small wire people, before he goes to sleep he puts them under his pillow and they take all the fears away. so far it works. those dolls are come from the Bolivian tradition. they also have wish dolls etc.

worth a try
tali
http://www.growingUPcreative..com

]]> By: Kerry http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Kerry Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:58:08 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-142 We deal with a lot of this right now. For my 3 year old it has a lot to do with fears. Giving her an uncomfortable consequence for coming to find us when she is fearful does not seem appropriate, obviously. Do you have any other suggestions for combating fears? We deal with a lot of this right now. For my 3 year old it has a lot to do with fears. Giving her an uncomfortable consequence for coming to find us when she is fearful does not seem appropriate, obviously. Do you have any other suggestions for combating fears?

]]> By: Amy B. http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-141 Amy B. Wed, 12 Aug 2009 15:01:47 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-141 Emily, I thought you were joking about the bathroom floor! Emily, I thought you were joking about the bathroom floor!

]]> By: Toddler Crafts Susan http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-140 Toddler Crafts Susan Mon, 10 Aug 2009 07:51:46 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-140 Thanks a lot for sharing these useful tips. It is really bothering when the kids stay up late till the midnight, if not to have sleep disruption. Both are common to happen. I have some ideas now from you. <a href="http://www.toddlercraft.net" rel="nofollow">Toddler Crafts Susan</a> Thanks a lot for sharing these useful tips. It is really bothering when the kids stay up late till the midnight, if not to have sleep disruption. Both are common to happen. I have some ideas now from you. Toddler Crafts Susan

]]> By: tali http://www.childperspective.com/sleep/the-never-ending-goodnight/comment-page-1/#comment-139 tali Sat, 08 Aug 2009 19:59:44 +0000 http://childperspective.wordpress.com/?p=808#comment-139 there are periods of time when my 3 year old asks me not to leave her bed site. after a long day of parenting i can get aggravated. not to mention that when they go to sleep is when i start to work. so what i do sometimes is agree to stay by them if they will close there eyes and let me work quietly with my laptop. this way i am not anxious about work that needs to be done, and they feel good about me being right next to them when they fall asleep. i think i am too tired to put up a fight at night and i know how much i love to fall asleep with someone besides me. thanks Emily there are periods of time when my 3 year old asks me not to leave her bed site. after a long day of parenting i can get aggravated. not to mention that when they go to sleep is when i start to work. so what i do sometimes is agree to stay by them if they will close there eyes and let me work quietly with my laptop. this way i am not anxious about work that needs to be done, and they feel good about me being right next to them when they fall asleep.
i think i am too tired to put up a fight at night and i know how much i love to fall asleep with someone besides me.
thanks Emily

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